When Media Happens to Good People

By

Kara Lamb

Program Manager and Senior Advisor, Climate Democracy Initiative

It’s a common misconception: individuals and organizations think “media” is something that happens to someone else. It isn’t true. Media can happen to anyone, anywhere, at any time. The trick is to be ready for it.

Media can look like different things. It ranges from word of mouth such as your neighbor leaning over the fence and asking if your company supports a local ordinance to a blogger grabbing your attention as you step off the podium after a panel presentation. More formally, it can be the cold call an intern receives from an investigative reporter wondering why your organization’s services led to a certain kind of outcome.

So, how to prepare? At the Climate Democracy Initiative, we’ve been asking ourselves similar questions. Although we are only a few years old, we’ve already garnered media attention where our Executive Director was asked casual questions by a reporter, or our programs and staff were featured in social media after a large event. Here’s what we think works to help turn an unplanned moment into an opportunity of positive storytelling.

Key Messages

Plan ahead with three Key Messages. Key Messages are the anchor of identity. They highlight the who, what, and why of an organization. They are the staples of most public-facing communications, standard yet always available for revisioning, as necessary. Three short and pithy statements addressing common questions are also easy answers to remember by staff and reporters alike. 

If an organization can distill its mission into three short sentences about who they are, what they do, and why they do it, and share the statements widely with all staff, answering an unexpected question becomes much easier.

Practice What You Preach

It’s cliche because it works. When we practice a thing repeatedly, it becomes habit. Once your organization identifies its three key messages, practice them. Individuals can recite the key messages on their own, or as an organization, you can develop some fun routines that make learning the messages part of the office’s every day.

Stop one another in the hallway and ask, “What do you do?” Have an icebreaker before an All-Hands meeting and ask one another, “Why do you perform this function?” Challenge one another on phone calls by pressing, “Who are you?”

Remember: it is important that everyone on staff be privy to the key messages and practices them. From the grocery store to Facebook, every employee has an opportunity to talk about your organization and be a spokesperson, whether they know it or not. Make sure they’re practiced and ready to do it.

Stay on Message

It sounds easy, but sticking to the messages is sometimes the hardest part. A good friend who posts to Substack might push you to answer a challenging question about your mission space. Stick to those key messages. You can even repeat them instead of being led down a rabbit hole of over or unnecessary explanation.

Also remember that it is okay to say “I don’t know. I’ll have to get back to you.” Then, take the time to return to your office, research, and prepare how you wish to answer the question. 

When deadlines or other pressures do not allow for the “I don’t know” option, use a bridge to bring the discussion back to the key message. Bridges acknowledge and validate the person asking the question, but give you the opportunity to tell your story your way. 

Common Bridges

Use phrases like: “I hear you, also…”, “I know people are asking, but…” “Actually…”, “Yes, and…”

Then follow up with one of the key messages. 

It becomes easier the more often you do it. 

Summary

  • Plan ahead with your Key Messages and share them throughout your organization. 
  • Practice them at every level so your whole team is prepared. 
  • Do not stray from the script. Bridge back to it whenever necessary.

Keep your focus. Say what you planned to say. Tell your story your way. 

With these tips, unplanned media becomes a success. 

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Grief in the Workplace

by

Genevieve Saenz

PassageWay Arts

Although the western world would like us to forget it, the truth is death and loss are real, grief happens, and we will all feel it at some point in our life. When grief comes for those we collaborate and work with, how we handle it impacts the culture of the entire organization.

Understanding Grief

Grief can show up as anxiety, anger, euphoria, relief, shock, denial, nostalgia, or any number of human emotions. This is because grief is not just an emotion; it is an experience and everyone experiences it differently. 

It is also unhelpful to think about grief as having a timeline. Grief doesn’t go away; rather, it is something we learn to accept and live with.

Circles of Support

A common analogy used in grief counseling is a stone dropped into a still body of water. The ripples go outward towards the edges of the water, and as they move away, they widen until, eventually, the water stills again. 

Traumatic incidents are processed in a similar way; people closest to the loss or traumatic event get the biggest and most violent waves of impact. Those people lean out for support from people in the next circle. Those people then lean out onto coworkers, spiritual communities, and friends to process their feelings about the event. In this way, the trauma of the event moves outward through circles of support and can dissipate more easily.

We run into trouble when those in outer circles rely on support from someone who is close to the loss. 

Our role as colleagues is simple: listen and lean out rather than back on the person in acute grief. If we find ourselves overwhelmed by the emotion of someone else’s loss, it is appropriate to process our experience in the outer circles and not with the person more affected.

What to Say to a Grieving Person

One of the main topics that comes up in my counseling suite is what to say to a grieving person. I have a lot of compassion here because there is no right thing to say. We all want to bring comfort, but keep in mind that nothing you say or do will change the fact that loss has happened. 

Conversely, saying nothing can be just as overwhelming to the aggrieved person as a sea of comforting platitudes. The middle and nuanced ground is to say something simple, short, and honest. I recommend a sincere, “I’m so sorry for your loss.” If the grieving person wants to respond or share more, simply listen.

From there, it is wise to let the grieving person lead the discussion. 

Supporting our colleagues, friends, clients, and collaborators who have experienced a loss means we must humbly accept that there is nothing we can do to solve the problem. From that healthy humility, we find a path of grace for them and for the whole team.

To learn more, read the article from the NGA archives.

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What are we even saying?

by

Hannah Sizelove 

Communications Associate, Arc Initiatives

What is the meaning of the terms such as Climate Change, Environmental Justice, Resilience or Conservation?

In what context should these terms be evoked? Anyone working on climate, energy or environmental policy has witnessed the constant conflict and negotiation around the terminology we use to discuss these issues — this post is no exception.

Whether casually over coffee or in formal discussion, our words matter at every stage of negotiation. Like the solutions being negotiated, the phrases we use are designed to shape reality and imagine the future. These phrases frame the discussion. For example, are we talking about the climate crisis, climate change, or an issue of economic stability? Is this framed as a question of public health or environmental injustice? What do our words say about the ideas we are bringing into negotiation discussions? The terms and phrases we use signal whose perspectives, voices, and values are being heard, prioritized, and legitimized. They establish the level of urgency and shape what the final, real-world impacts actually look like.

No matter the specific issue at stake, developing clear, accessible, and community-informed messaging that reflects on-the-ground needs is a critical foundation when working to reduce conflict and create policies that last. Finding this common ground helps to ensure the nuanced negotiations that go into defining these terms – not to mention the progress on policies that have been a long-time in the making – aren’t erased in a harsh whiplash effect as policies move across different stages and parties. 

Actively seeking input on messaging from a wide range of impacted community members, businesses, scientists, academics, local leaders, experts – and everyone in between – is key. A negotiator should be aware of how different stakeholders are talking about the issue at hand. Before negotiations begin, the leader should consider who is the best messenger to present different values-based arguments during negotiations, such as topics of economic stability versus public health inequities.

Furthermore, local communities, particularly frontline and marginalized communities, must be at the negotiating table and genuinely amplified in a way that is not extractive, but driving the conversations and language for policies that are ultimately meant to serve them. Bringing in more voices enables negotiators to expand broad words, such as “conservation,” to encompass more diverse lived experiences and communities, especially those who have been historically excluded. 

Any policy or project we work on must reflect the nuanced values, intersectional identities, and specific needs of the communities it is designed to support. Being intentional about the words we use to think, ideate, and negotiate on climate and environmental issues is at the core of co-designing effective, lasting, community-driven policy.

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Abuse of Power in Negotiations

By

Daniel Merz, Ph.D.

Dr. Daniel Merz

There are occasions in negotiation or mediation where a member of one party will use intimidation or in some instances bullying tactics to gain a power advantage. These tactics present difficult and emotionally challenging management moments for the negotiator. Although such tactics more often emerge in custody or divorce situations, they can also surface in business and corporate negotiation sessions. The abuse of power immediately imposes an imbalance on the process. 

What I am about to describe are a series of interventions that a negotiator can use to achieve a fair and equitable balance of power to the negotiation process. I want to begin by noting that there are a variety of variables that will influence the use and abuse of power. Among these are age, gender, race, knowledge, experience, position, and economic status. Each of these variables may influence the balance of power. Four skills may help you establish a power balance that can move the process forward.

First, is recognizing the importance and contribution of each party. Acknowledging the presence of each party can be a helpful way to open negotiations with an eye to combating the abuse of power. A mediator and good negotiator needs to be able to establish effective and respectful relationships with the parties involved. 

  • At times the clients’ desire to settle can be used as a persuasive plea to end the use of power tactics. 
  • At other times, firmly interrupting the party being abusive or intimidating can end the tactic.
  • It is important to give the other parties time to speak and ask questions. 
  • More than simply encouraging parties to speak, power balance can be enhanced by ensuring equal time to do so. For instance, a mediator might interrupt an aggressive and intimidating client and say, “Excuse me, I am curious about what the other client is wanting to convey or express at this moment”. 
  • Whatever tactic is used, avoiding making quick judgments or assumptions that a party is using inappropriate negotiating behavior is also wise. 
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WATER NEGOTIATIONS

NEGOTIATING TO PUT WATER BACK INTO STREAMS

Negotiations are Key

Headlines like these have become familiar to those who follow western water issues:  “Megadrought Stresses Stream Systems and Water Users”  “Blue Ribbon Trout Fishery in Danger From Lack of Water”.   In the face of a continuing megadrought—we are told the banner snowpack of 2022-2023 is likely just a blip—how to preserve and improve streamflows to promote healthy ecosystems?  The staff at the Colorado Water Trust (CWT) (www.coloradowatertrust.org) goes to work every day to try to answer these questions.  They’ve been remarkably successful, megadrought and all: since 2001, CWT has put over 74,000 acre-feet of water back into Colorado’s streams.   

The Colorado Water Trust was founded about 20 years ago by a bunch of so-called “water buffaloes”—water attorneys and engineers who spent their workdays developing water rights to be diverted by thirsty cities and industrial users, and who thought it was time to find a way to put water back into streams.  From the beginning, the concept was to find willing water rights owners and then use legal tools available under the prior appropriation doctrine to put water back into streams, while still preserving the underlying water rights.  Many CWT water rights transactions involve a sharing arrangement or temporary lease, not a permanent transfer, and often involve the Colorado Water Conservation Board (CWCB), the state agency authorized to hold and protect instream flow water rights.  

When a suitable water right is identified, CWT evaluates the most effective legal means to return the water to the stream while maintaining the owner’s property interest.  Negotiations are key in this effort:  both negotiations with the water rights owner to arrive at a workable sharing or lease agreement, negotiations with CWCB to establish an instream flow use of the water right, subject to the terms negotiated with the water right owner, and negotiations with neighboring water users who may be impacted. 

An Example

One prominent project involves a “5 in 10” year lease, authorizing the release of water from Stagecoach Reservoir to benefit the Yampa River through Steamboat Springs, Colorado in “five years out of ten”.  Conceived of during the extremely dry summer of 2012, the project has put over 17,000 acre-feet of water into the Yampa River and allowed the City of Steamboat Springs to maintain its recreational water uses during exceptionally dry summers, helped the city meet water quality standards at its wastewater discharge outfall, and has generally benefitted aquatic life in the Yampa River.

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Can We Talk about Barriers? — Introverts and Scientists

by

Janet L. D. Vogel

During my time in Federal leadership and program management–and also as an information technology specialist–I have experienced a couple of often overlooked barriers to negotiation and conflict resolution.

First, scientists and technologists may be more likely to have “introverted” personalities and to be “quieter” in nature. How we approach an issue resolution with people that have different traits will often lead us to success or disaster. Before addressing a conflict it is important to determine not only what the goals and interests of the other party may be but also to understand their personality traits. respecting our different natures and traits will keep the door open for successful resolution.

Second, each functional discipline uses its own “language.” This is the use of terminology or acronyms that are meaningful for us, but don’t necessarily translate to anything of meaning to our adversaries/co-negotiators/partners. For example, “techie talk” or “environmental speak” can sound like gibberish and become meaningless to others. It is like what Charlie Brown hears when his teacher talks –“wah, wah, wah, wah.” The effort to meet the audience on their own turf so that they can understand what we are saying is critical for success. We must take extra steps to translate our pitch into something meaningful in their world. For example, by using their measures of success, we can stress the benefit to them of taking a certain action, and the impact or consequences, to their business or program if action is not taken.

It may take a little homework but when we communicate with our audience in mind the likelihood of success is greatly improved.

Janet L. D. Vogel, President, The Vogel Group (TVG) LLC

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Preparing for Negotiation On the Fly

by

Berton Lee Lamb and Susan K. Driver

We often read the advice that we should be well prepared for negotiation. This is sometimes directed at one-on-one negotiations. Buying a car is an example. “Do your research beforehand” they advise. This sounds straightforward but even a simple negotiation can become quite complicated and time-consuming. You are not sure how much preparation is enough.

The problem of preparing for a multi-party negotiation can be even more daunting. It may actually be impossible to know when we have sufficiently prepared! Yet trying to be overly comprehensive may reduce your effectiveness. 

Although there are a few basic lessons about multi-party negotiations, preparation is usually one of the main recommendations. In reality, we often find ourselves getting ready for negotiations “on the fly.” We simply don’t have the time or resources to carry out a comprehensive preparation.

Here is a guide for preparing to negotiate “on the fly:”

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American Negotiating Style: Part 4

I recently found a blog post that summarizes some useful negotiation lessons. The blog is entitled Your “Tools for Success in the United States.”

The five-part guidance for the first-time negotiator in the Unites States is informative about what to watch out for and what not to do. I have listed the guidelines along with comments from people with experience in negotiating with Americans. I have also added a section on “Preparation.”

  • Sense of Urgency–Quick results

Commenters:

“It is important to be clear and direct when negotiating with Americans.” (Sherk)

“Turkish people, like many Asian cultures, may not explicitly state what they really want to say but expect people to understand immediately. This is why Turkish people in negotiations with Americans have to be clear about what they say. When Americans say “No” they mean it as an absolute answer. However, some Turkish people, when they are asked a question, if they answer “No” they might expect an American to ask again. But Americans do not ask the second time. They accept No as No. Americans give importance to punctuality. Thus, you have to be on time for appointments and meetings.” (Conka)

“Be prepared for the clash between the long- and short-term outlook.” (Mehta)

“America is a large diverse country with many regional sub-cultures. Although Americans are generally friendly, it is sometimes important to learn if your opposite number is someone who wishes to be very direct.” (Sherk)

  • Informality–

Commenters:

“In the informal negotiations I have observed–especially between tourists and shopkeepers–Americans like to feel special, like VIPs. When they are treated this way they seem to be more open to doing business (and spending money) because they feel others have recognized their importance and can be trusted.” (Alebouni)

“The most important thing to remember about International negotiations is that personal relationships are paramount.” (Mehta)

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American Negotiating Style: Part 2

How do others see us? This is a great question and it is especially important to understand how we are viewed as negotiators. (Click here to read Part 1)

Recently, I was teaching the negotiation segment of a course at the Office of Personnel Management’s Eastern Executive Seminar Center. About half the students were American and half were from the government of India. We started talking about national negotiating styles, so I asked “What do you see as the American negotiation style?”  The first answer from the Indian government personnel was “Arrogant!”

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NGA Sponsors Lamb Prize in Political Science

 The Bert & Phyllis Lamb Prize in Political Science

Negotiation Guidance Associates is pleased to announce the Bert and Phyllis Lamb Prize in Political Science.

The Lamb Prize has been awarded annually since 2014.

The Lamb-Prize:

  •  Is a $1,000 cash award.
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Donna Lybecker, Ph.D. Department of Political Science, Idaho State University.

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